I am pro-choice.
I find it odd that a majority of those against abortion are also against a women’s right to access to birth control, and whom complain about welfare and unemployment (and child neglect…and poverty…and…)
The focus is entirely on the image of “murdering” a baby. Just like we seem to focus on the image of a 10 year old cancer patient taking bong rips in the fight to legalize medical marijuana. Distorted, manipulated, inaccurate. It makes my head and heart hurt.
The image we should be envisioning is the very long, complex process of having and caring for a child.
It is I who will carry and nourish that child with my body for 9 months. It is I who will be responsible for clothing, feeding, caring, and providing for that child once it is born. It is I who will carry that physical and emotional burden/blessing from the moment of conception to my last breath, and in turn I will pass that on to that child for the same length of time. Will you carry, nourish, clothe, feed, care for, and provide for my child for me? Because if I can’t, it will then be your responsibility as a tax-payer and the states as a Government body to do so, since you want to make my abortion illegal and take that right/option from me. What are your views on welfare and the foster care/adoption system, or even teen pregnancy, being that you won’t actually FEEL or have to DEAL with that burden directly, it will be paid out through taxes and federal/state budgets? My child, who you forced me to have, will either have to be cared for by me, a despondent, unprepared mother who may or may not have the emotional or financial means to care for him/her nor provide a good, happy, healthy home for him/her OR be put into state/foster care which is already overwhelmed, and then he/she is going to have to go through the very long, emotional process of finding a family who can afford to take them on. The family who chooses my child will have to decide whether or not to tell him/her that they are not their biological parents, and my child will then go through the emotional journey of dealing with THAT information on top of all the time they spent in foster care and trying to find that “forever home”…it’s quite a ripple effect one life can have on so many others. Maybe, MAYBE I’m a mentally ill woman who doesn’t know how to even process all that information and decide to leave my baby in a public restroom or dumpster or worse; being that I’m only provided one option which is to go through the emotional, physical, public process of having it…and don’t have the “right” to an abortion…because you want to make it illegal. There is a lot more to making (and taking) a life than we seem to want to discuss. Thank goodness that adoption IS an option, it’s a wonderful alternative for those who can handle such a decision and process, but…abortion is as well for some out there.
I’d like to think of myself as a very compassionate, sensitive, empathetic person. With that comes being compassionate, sensitive, and empathetic towards ALL…including the fetus…the woman carrying it…the potential people paying and caring for it…etc etc. It also means I have to consider each and every circumstance this could apply to; which isn’t the overwhelming ignorant image of a slutty twenty-something without a care in the world using it as a form of birth control, believe it or not. Let’s remember, one life has a very wide ripple effect on those around it. It can be magical, it can be tragic…either way, it is life altering for all involved. Bringing a baby into this world is quite the process. It also doesn’t just happen like we tell our children, by “two people who love each other very much”. And we seem to forget: we are also choosing that child’s quality of life when we choose for the mother whether or not she keeps it. I’ve heard time and time again, “some people shouldn’t be allowed to have children”. Hmm. An odd statement coming from pro-lifers. Sometimes I really just think people like to hear themselves talk and like to enforce their views and beliefs and opinions on everyone else with no consideration of the consequences. You want me to have this baby I am not prepared for yet…later when you deem me an unfit parent, you want to mock me and say how I shouldn’t have had it in the first place. My head spins. Personally, I feel that decision lies with the person creating the life. Personally, I don’t like the idea of someone telling me what my future, or that of my unborn child, is going to hold and then resenting me for it later when they have to help support it.
Until you’re ready to open your womb or home or wallet or LIFE up to the possibility of MY fetus and my child, and deal with the repercussions of that decision for both myself and my child, you have no right to tell me what to do with mine. None.
I am pro-choice…